someone elses trash? MY treasure!

its pretty common to have dated many people before you finally get married. and when you live in a small"ish" town, people kind of get "recycled" several times over. i never had this problem. first of all...i never dated anyone in high school. (what can i say?...guys didnt dig me.) and then i moved out west for college. so, i didnt date anyone from my town. (well...maybe a few people here and there, but only when i was in town visiting my family. nothing really substantial). so, i dont have the issue of running into exes or past dates. and i guess the metal bars on a prison cell are also a good reason for not running into certain exes. (him on the inside...me on the outside. just incase you were wondering.)

my husband? like most people who continued to live here after high school, he has pretty much dated everyone. and its a standing joke with us now; because he has dated most of my friends, (and/or their sisters!) and i LOVE my friends. theyre great! so ive asked him why he didnt wind up with any of them. almost in a tone of me wanting him to have wound up with them. like.... "hunny....i just LOVE (so and so)....how come youre not with her?!" my humble and very modest husband always had the same reply. "its not that i didnt like them. they didnt like me! and most of them totally blew me off!" and he also proceeds to tell me that the reason why he dated me, is because i was the only one who liked him and would go out with him again. (however, i know for a fact, that is just NOT true!) plus....why the hell did he even want to go out with me? all i did was talk about how much i disliked lawyers! what can i say?...*it was at a time when i was dealing with really mean lawyers. and i never had to deal with lawyers in the past.
(*note: see the above example regarding prison bars)

anyway...i can see why he wasnt what most girls, (including myself), would go for. for one thing...hes NICE. and a GENTLEMAN. my hunny is the best thing ever. he makes me so happy, and i am grateful every day that i found him. i think i have the perfect catch. i LOVE him! i ADORE him! BUT, he was an acquired taste. i thought he was nice when i first met him. but i wasnt blown over with his presence. or his shoes. or his hair. or pretty much anything he was wearing. (but really...who was looking anyway?) also...add to the mix that i wasnt much interested in meeting anyone at the time.

so....now, my friends and i will talk about our past relationships and our marriages now. and they tell me how great it is that i have the most wonderful husband and how lucky i am; blah, blah, blah. but i cant help by sometimes adding, "well...if hes so great, how come YOU didnt want him?" (and of course im joking.....not everyone is on the same page at the same time, and a myriad other reasons why certain pairings dont work.) but they usually say things like, "i was so stupid back then"...or "i didnt know what i really wanted." and once again...of course i get it! ive done the same thing.

so...id like to say THANK YOU to all of my friends, (and their sisters), for allowing me to come in and swoop away my hunny from you! im tempted to sing in their face, while sticking my thumbs in my ear with my tongue out, "ha ha, ha ha-ha...i got him and yooooou diiiiiiidnt!" but i cant do that either, because my friends have snagged some pretty amazing spouses as well. and that makes me so happy. it makes me even happier that now we have the greatest 'couple friends' that we enjoy so much!

and by the way...unlike the title of this post...im not referring to my husband as trash! for the record...he is referred to as "the other asshole". (which of course...is an inside joke!) but it wouldnt really matter if it wasnt a joke; because he doesnt read my blog anyway!