Tuesday, July 1, 2008

"mommie, what is.....?"

so...the other night, i was putting hayden to bed, and we were having a conversation. he wanted to know if we would see dianes mom and dad when we went to visit her family in vegas. i said that we would see her mom, but not her dad, because he lives in heaven. "mommie, what is heaven?" he asked. i correlated it to our garden. "baby, ya know how when the flowers die in the garden, they wilt over?" he nodded. i asked him, "well...what happens to them next?" he said, "new ones grow." which is actually true, so i told him he was correct. so i explained that we all live on earth, and then when we die...were still here, but we live with god in a place called heaven, and the people on earth cant see us, and then new people grow on earth. i thought it was a pretty good explanation. so...he ponders it a second, and then asks me, "what is god?" i said, "baby, that is a good question....hmmmm.....lets see"...and i paused to think about how i was going to answer this. before i could even answer, he said, "god makes us all safe." i was a bit floored. im not very religious, (tho i do consider myself very spiritual), and i know i didnt have this conversation with him. god has been mentioned in some of his books, and im sure it was discussed in his school a little bit, but other than that....not too much. so i told him that was a very good answer, and that yes....god does keep us all safe. i asked, "did auntie diane teach you that?" he said no. "did you learn it at school?" he said no. i asked him who taught him that. "nobody mommie....nobody told it to me. i just knew it. i just knew it, mommie!" i was pretty impressed. it gave me goosebumps and made me tear up. i thought it was amazing for him to say that. i do believe in god. very much so. but not so much in a religious way. i believe that kids know things that most people dont give them credit for. i believe they are more in tune with the spiritual world and i always listen to what hayden has to say without judging him or telling him hes wrong; no matter how wacky it may be. i mean, who really knows what is out there and what is real or not? either way...this was a pretty normal comment from him, and even tho i am sure he has heard about god from other places...i do believe he really meant what he told me. i believe that he really did "just know it." thinking it was such a beautiful comment...i immediately called my mom from his room, to relay the story to her. i said "mom...youre never gonna believe the conversation i had with hayden...youre gonna shit!" to which hayden says, "mommie...whats shit?"

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

i love that story!!! he sounds like such an amazingly intuitive kid! and it is amazing...sometimes, you just know stuff...
love ya!!
xoxo,
missy

Anonymous said...

Thank god my kid isn't the only one who says shit !

Unknown said...

Lori this mad me laugh aloud which in turn got me totally busted as I am supposed to be working! Too funny
thanks
elana

Anonymous said...

Lori,
You slay me - I don't remember the last time I laughed so hard. Mostly because I've been that mom inadvertently teaching my kid's bad words and trying to gracefully exit a restaurant with a partially clothed child.

Keep this up - I love it because I feel like I'm in touch with you and love seeing your precious boy too!

Enjoy the rest of your summer (and if it makes you feel better this July 4th was the first year that my 10 year old didn't cover his ears during fireworks)

Love,
Shawn Broida